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One Word Can Change a person

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Imagine growing up in a home where there are two children. One, the apple of their parent's eye, and the other, the recipient of their disdain. Apple has praise reaped upon him, even when he doesn't deserve it, while disdain receives constant criticism, even for things he has nothing to do with.

Apple will probably grow up being confident, and maybe a tad bit cocky, but Disdain will always be unsure. He will always second guess himself, and take the blame for things he did not do or  had no control over.

Studies have shown the impact of words upon us, yet we like to lie to ourselves, and say that old lie about stick and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me. The truth is the bones can be healed, but depending on the words, they are like bruises. Perhaps the top layer has healed or shows no scar, but underneath, it is sore, and if put under an X-Ray, you might even see some or the damage.

There are a lot of people walking around with hidden scars caused by the words someone has spoken over them. The words are playing out as self-fulfilling prophecies, not because they were true to begin with, but at some point they were believed. The person who was told they would never be anything, so he can't seem to stick with anything. Or, the young lady who was told she was fat, ugly, or only good for having babies,  becomes promiscuous or is hampered with eating disorders.

I wish there was a magic pill to take away the damage that thoughtless words have done, but there is none. I wish I could say time heals all wounds, but that is not true. The only way to heal the damage of words is to be proactive. The first step being, admitting that the words hurt you. When you acknowledge it, you are well on the way to healing. It does not make you weak to have been hurt. It makes you human.
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